My two kids are now grown, one in college, one finished college and now in the workplace. I had them both home last weekend. Sunday night, I prepared myself for their departure. I took on a disinterested attitude thinking it wouldn’t hurt as much when they drove away. I was wrong. I cried after they were out of sight.

The empty nest adjustment has been a mixed bag. I find myself “vegging” more, daydreaming about the “good ‘ol days.” The other day, I daydreamed about my 2 yr old son, and 6 yr old daughter and I – sitting together on the couch watching “Lion King.” We were laughing at the “Hakuna Matata” dialogue. Pumbaa defines “hakuna matata” as “put your behind in the past!” His loyal friend, Timon, corrects him, saying that it means to “put your past behind you!” Quite a difference between the two!

Actually, “hakuna matata” is a Swahili phrase that means: “There are no worries.”

13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)

Paul had quite a past. He was a persecutor – well, let’s call a spade a spade – he was a killer of Christians. He hunted them down and had them killed. Now, he champions Jesus Christ. If anyone had a past that could make things difficult, it was Paul. And, he relays from time to time that his past did hinder his new work for Christ. He had to forget the past and PRESS on to the great things God has planned for him.

If I sit home, wishing for the good ‘ol days of my son and daughter’s childhood, I will miss what amazing things we will experience together while they are adults. If I wallow in the past, I will miss the present and the future.

Are you putting your “behind in the past” or putting your “past behind you?”

Don’t miss what God wants to do with you today and tomorrow, by hanging on your yesterday.

26 thoughts on “press”

  1. There is a lot to wallow in in my past…but I have been amazed how God has continually used it for His glory in my present. I now wonder how He will use my present in the future.

  2. Right now I’m the dad that is sitting on the couch watching cartoon videos with his kids. That’s the point of the story I’m at right now. There has to be some way to plant seeds today that will help me 20 years from now to remember this truth. “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

  3. My oldest son turned 10 today. The time is already flying by so I can’t imagine what it’ll be like when they’re all out of the house. I do know though that we can rejoice in the wonderful things we’ve experienced in the past and fully embrace the here and now. Not that I always succeed, but that’s what I want. Thanks, Herb.

  4. Time is passing quickly! I now have a teenager in the 10th grade and seems like yesterday we were watching Franklin on Nick Jr.

    I never want to miss what God has for me today. I think many churches live in the Good old days and miss what God is doing today.

    Good post and encouragement.

  5. I’m sorry this has nothing to do with the post (I’m wondering if I’m really sorry) but I have to share this. Really. I’m at work and wanted to read your blog so I googled “Herbie Halstead in his grip”. But it didn’t show up. I’m like:”What?! No Herbie?!!! Oh, it’s Herb not Herbie” So when I corrected myself I found your blog. I know it’s stupid but I laughed about it and wanted to share. That’s all. Bye bye.

  6. Sorry so late man. I’ve been guilty of this. Looking at the things that used to happen or that did happen and dwelling on it, rather than going forward because I could miss out on so much. This is actually something that April and I have both been discussing as of late.

  7. Lion King….one of my favorite movies (hence my “user/online name “Pridelandsmommy”….Pridelands…and my last name is Lyon.

    anyway….random thoughts there.

    Jesus makes a His sacred promise with the present because that is where our power resides. Think about it….we constantly worry about the “what ifs?” of the future or the “if onlys” of the past

    He is the Great I AM. (present)

    1. excellent thoughts there, Michelle – not that we should not bask in the great Hope for the future, but we can get just as bogged down with the “what ifs” as the “only ifs” – thanks!

  8. this is so good πŸ™‚ I have a pretty mixed background, so Im always thinking about what to bring forward and what to leave behind.

  9. I love this Herb! I have that tendency sometimes to dwell in the past or make comparisons. When I live in the moment and I am totally present in every situation, I can make the most out of every situation.

    No worries mon!

  10. I have three in college and four more in various grades and ages…time does go by very fast. You have to enjoy the moment, cherish memories and thank God for it all.

    Good words dude…thanks!

  11. I am looking forward to the future. I am in the country I want to live/work and I am looking forward to having children one day.

    PS: If you move to Germany you are at just the right age to have more children. Couples here wait until they are in their 30’s/40’s πŸ˜‰

    1. 30’s and 40’s – well, that’ not really that much different here for most people, don’t you think? Well, maybe not 40’s so much. David, may God, whose love abounds, bless your ministry and your family.

      1. Most people that I know personally who are my age (32) have children who are between 8 and 12. I feel late but I actually wanted to wait because I know I was not wise enough… still feel that way but I’ll chance it πŸ˜‰

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