it.would.be.nice

Michael Perkins‘ posts about his son cause me to reminisce about my own children when they were at that age. In fact, I am almost jealous that I don’t have that time back so I can enjoy the unfettered affection of my children. But, God blessed me with a father-son story of my own, today.

My son, now 18, is leaving today to visit some friends in another city. We banter back and forth all the time with sarcasm and “picking” on one another – it’s our “schtick.”

This morning I had the door closed as I was getting dressed for work. He tells me through the door that he is leaving. I responded in haste (while putting on my pants) with, “OK.”

I heard silence, then, “um… ok… um…”

In our typical bantering style, I quipped back, “What’s the matter? You need a good-bye hug from your old man or something?” – expecting the typical sarcastic reply from him.

What I got was a timid, “Umm, yeah, it would be nice.”

So, I hugged him, kissed the side of his head, told him to be careful, that I would miss him, and that I loved him.

For just a moment, he was that 4 yr old boy who said he would never leave mom and dad, and would always be our little boy. He needed the loving embrace of his father. I needed it too!

12 Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God– 13 children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.
(John 1:12-13)

I know, I know, I know, that my Heavenly Father loves me. But, sometimes I find I need His loving embrace – just because.

25 thoughts on “it.would.be.nice”

  1. Aawwww, how sweet! I know, a bit of a feminin reaction here. To think it all comes back to the honesty of a child.
    You will always be his dad. He will always be your son.

  2. Herb: I tend to agree with Dusty…Oh no the guy is wearing off on you! Aaaaaahhhhh! But that is in a good way. πŸ˜› well done post. I have two daughters (35 & 31) and I cannot begin to tell you how much they mean to me and how much it means to be told “I love you dad.” The oldest is most like me in personality and also still single so I still hold a special place in her heart. I am glad that i will always hold a special place in God’s heart.

  3. So is Ani saying you had a feminine reaction? πŸ™‚

    Herb, this is fantastic. My kids are still pretty little (oldest is 9) but I already feel the pulling away to some degree and I know things will go by quickly. We have to cherish all these moments. I agree too that we need the embrace of our Father…

    Thank you.

  4. Umm, yeah I was talking about my own reaction.

    It’s okay Jason, I understand you recognized Herb’s feminin side in this post. Hehe.

  5. As i type this comment, tears are reaching the brim of my eyes. i send my son (our youngest) to college this month. he and i share a special bond. i too am reliving my parenthood moments through Michael’s posts. your post is an additional shot in my arm to make the most of the remaining 23 days before he sleeps his first night in the dorm…

    i think i’ll see if he wants to go to a cleveland indians game or something.

  6. Sweet post! Not yet a parent but I hope Ill cherish the precious moments I have with my children when they come! I wish I could just steal home for that hug from my parents! Thanks for stopping by my blog!

  7. awww… i am joining Ani in a “feminine moment” here. That is awesome.

    mom and i have sort of a similar relationship. we joke and poke fun at each other more like friends rather than mother and daughter, but even though i am 24, i still have lots of moments when i just want to cuddle right next to my mom and just be a kid again. i understand that a father / son relationship is different from a mother / daughter one, yet i see the similarities in your story above… not often i admit that i still “want my mommy,” yet it happens πŸ™‚

    thanks for sharing that precious moment, Herb.

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