I’d had a tough day at work: someone decided to use me as a verbal punching bag. I was feeling under-appreciated, violated, and insulted. The short drive home seemed hours long as those stinging words swirled around in my mind.

I did not say a word as I entered the house, but my face said enough. My bride asked me how my day was. Grunting in response, I began my after-work routine: emptied my pockets, changed into more comfortable clothing. I then plopped down onto the couch with a heavy sigh.

Angel got up from her stack of papers waiting to be graded. She walked over to me, sat down next to me. Cradling my head against her shoulder, she told me how much she appreciated all my hard work and sacrifice.

As her words filled my head, they were like a sweet aroma, overpowering a foul stench. I instantly felt renewed and revitalized. She then walked back to the kitchen table where her schoolwork was waiting.

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. (Proverbs 16:24)

I’ve had other moments like that, rescued by the gracious words of friends and loved ones. It truly is amazing how much restoration can be sown by a few simple, gracious words.

As I reminisce a bit, I am forced to wonder if anyone has similar memories of me, where I was the one offering gracious words. Do I offer grace and restoration as I interact with others? I hope so. If not, I pray that I begin to.

I’ll start with all of you who visit this blog: you are generous and kind to me, encouraging and uplifting. Thank you for being awesome just by sharing yourself with me.

17 thoughts on “gracious.words”

  1. It’s crazy how the love of a wife can make the bad go away with a simple gesture.

    As for you…Herb you really challenge me and I leave here encouraged. Thank you for all that you do man.

  2. Now, I wanted to be a bad girl and tease you but this is not the good time and moment. Of course you encourage me. You make me smile you crazy man, like all the others do. You are a bunch of luna’s. That I keep coming back says it all. I wouldn’t if you didn’t encourage me, challenge me and make me laugh. I’m a person people used to say I was born laughing not crying. So I need a laugh, and you and your crazy brothers here do the same to me. So every time you think some of them encouraged you, you do the same. Just realized that if you are funny and make me laugh that means God is funny and makes us laugh and that means we make Him laugh. Am I still saying any sensible something here. I’m too tired really don’t know what I’m saying. That must mean something to you that I take the time to write this down. Now I really stop and I wrote another line. Oh well, just read Psalm 139 and think about me. Hahahahhaaa, no that was of course a joke. Just read it and think how God sees you. Bye bye.

  3. What a powerful weapon we have in encouragement. It’s so sad that we don’t use it more. I know exactly what you mean. Those wrong or stinging words get stuck in there until something else can replace them, and it doesn’t take much.

    You are definitely an encouragement to me. Your passion, your heart, your writing, and support are so appreciated and I wouldn’t want to take them for granted. Blessings…

  4. My wife is a great source of inspiration and encouragement for me.

    I find great encouragement in what you write my friend and the banter back on forth on twitter – little things like that I find encouragement in.

    Lord – I pray you bless Herbs socks off tonight! Amen.

  5. Thanks for sharing this Herb. Such a great reminder and an encouragement for what to look forward to when I find my bride. I appreciate you brother.

    “Exhort one another daily, while it is called today” Heb 3:13

  6. Herb, excellent post here. My wife too has the ability to bring joy and sweetness to my life at every moment. I long for her words on days like you mentioned above.

    Harsh words can be like arrows, once you let them go you can’t take them back, and they sting hard. But encouraging words are like warm rays of sun, bringing life to the recipient.

  7. I appreciate this. Funny how my fiance did the same for me a couple days back. 🙂 I appreciate you Herb. Although I don’t get here often, I always enjoy it when I do. 🙂

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