I’ve been alive long enough to know that for everything with which we involve ourselves, we can estimate what our experience will be by looking at the quality of our engagement.
In other words, we can expect a great experience if our level of engagement is strong.
I know this to be true by the judging my own pursuits.
If I am actively engaging in a club or interest group, I will get more out of it than if my attitude of engagement is one of “just one more thing to do.”
If I am actively engaging a book I am reading, I will get more out of it than if my attitude of engagement is one of “suffering through it.”
If I am actively engaging my Bible readings, I will get more out of it than if my attitude of engagement is one of “let me get this over with so I can so something else.”
You and I could extend this relationship between engagement and experience to MANY examples -including relationships.
One more note – the amount of effort is not necessarily the same thing as the quality of effort.
God said to love Him “with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30).
Whether we are “dipping our toes,” “wading waist deep,” or “jumping in” – we can expect an experience that corresponds.